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Questions to Ask Your Partner to Spark Intimacy: Advice from a Denver Couple’s Therapist.

Updated: Nov 9, 2022

Young couple laughing together over coffee while asking each other questions learned in Couples Therapy in Denver, CO to spark intimacy.

Many relationships fail because of the lack of intimacy in a relationship. The most detrimental thing you can do in a relationship is to become roommates and strangers. It's easy for life to get in the way and the relationship to take a back seat. As a relationship therapist at Lone Wolf, I have seen this happen time and time again.

Familiarity Creates Complacency

As you start getting more comfortable in a relationship, you tend to stop trying to get to know your partner. You feel as if you already know your partner so well, you might even think that you know what they would answer to these questions. Be curious about your partner and remind yourself that the same way you are not the same person you were a year ago, your partner is also not the same person. Be curious about the ways they’ve changed and seek opportunities to get to know your partner better.

Below are some questions for you to ask your partner

Whether you want to ask a question randomly or grab a bottle of wine and have a date night out of this – it’s all fair game! The only rule is to be curious. What do I not know about my partner?

About Your Partner

  • What do you find exciting in your life right now?

  • What are your biggest worries about the future?

  • What do you want your life to be like in three years?

  • If you could have three wishes, what would they be?

  • What’s your biggest goal/dream?

  • Describe your perfect day (all things allowed – time travel, unlimited money, etc.)


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About the Relationship

  • How do you think our relationship has changed in the last couple of months?

  • How have I changed in the relationship?

  • When you first met me, did you ever think our relationship would be like this right now?

  • What surprised you about dating me?

  • What do you like most about our relationship?

  • What do I do that turns you on that I have no idea about?


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For Parents and Soon to be Parents

  • What kind of person do you think our child(ren) will become? Any fears? Any hopes?

  • How would you compare yourself as a caregiver as compared to your caregivers growing up?

  • What do you want to take and what do you want to leave from your family culture


Debrief Session

  • What is something you learned doing this exercise?

  • What did you learn about your relationship?

  • Describe what you are feeling in one word after hearing your partner’s answers.

Looking for more fun ways to get intimate with your partner? Check out more ideas on the Card Decks App or the Where Should We Begin Game

Begin Couples Counseling in Denver, CO

You’re in a committed relationship and care for each other deeply, but things have been building up lately causing conflict. Whether it's infidelity, trust issues, communication difficulties, and more, we are here to help. Our Denver, CO therapy practice is here to start you on the journey to healing and fulfillment in your relationship. Below is a list of steps to get you started!

Couples Counseling Services in Denver, Colorado

We are here to help you on your journey to finding a deeper meaning in your relationship!

  1. We suggest reading our Blog Post, “5 Signs its Time for Couples Therapy”, to gain insight into the benefits of when couples counseling is the answer!

  2. We encourage you to get to know a little bit about our therapists, their specializations, and credentials. Get to know our therapists here.

  3. If you think Couples Counseling is for you, reach out to us! You can use our convenient online therapy scheduling form found on our home page.

  4. Begin the exciting journey of understanding your relationship with your partner and strengthening the bond you already have, to forge a lasting, healthy, and fulfilling relationship!

Other Counseling Services in Denver, CO

Not only does our therapy practice in Denver offer premarital counseling, but we also offer a wide variety of services at any relationship stage. Each relationship is unique in its personal journey and we are here to provide, insightful and productive Relationship Counseling, Divorce and Break-up Recovery Counseling, Attachment-Based Therapy, Couples Counseling, Trauma Therapy, Kink and Nonmonogamy, LGBTQ+ Counseling, and Premarital Counseling as well. We also offer Self-Help Resources to help supplement your therapy or to better prepare for upcoming therapy sessions!it's

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